Czar:

I rather like your statement "I have now accepted that not only am I a confirmed introvert, but I am not and will never be a respectable grown-up."

I, too, am an introvert and it has taken me a long time to accept. I believe introverts digest information, rather than discard. Yet, there are times when others find me aloof, when in fact I don't cater to chit-chat (unless nervous).

To Czar and Mustang - if you get the chance, cehck out this website and take their test:

http:www.hsperson.com

Being introverts, digesting info. and dislike of chit chat, are some of the traits of a highly sensitive person (not a bad thing).
I discovered I was "one" a couple of years ago and it has helped me so much.

Hi, Czarina, and welcome!
I am never lonely either! When I've been in the "throes" of dating, I've often acknowledged to myself, "This is a LOT of work!!!" There was never any real quiet time, never any time for introspection and reflection, which I need. I like to spend my free time working on my art and the solitude is necessary for me.
I grew up in a 4 room coalcamp style house in the coalfields of WV. There was never any privacy or room for escape or solitude. As an adult, I've always had big houses, even during my 20 year marriage, where I could have a place of seclusion.
Some people really can't function without a partner with whom they plan every activity. That is not me, though I've spent a lot of time since my divorce 8 years ago thinking I should be doing so!
I'm not a man-hater, or bitter or cynical, but this new-found freedom and peace of mind is something I intend to guard and cultivate!
ARI

oh Ari, do I envy you! I live with 9 other people and right now they are being extra loud!!!

Western!!! 9 people? Are they family? I can't imagine, but I also kinda admire you for it!
Ari

One is my husband, 7 are my kids, one is my son's friend from New Orleans.
I have a daughter, son in law and grandson who moved out 2 months ago..I guess I should put this under the topic of "my dream" - having the house to myself for a whole day!!

[ October 28, 2005, 07:26 PM: Message edited by: Western Bluebird ]

Western!!! I do admire you, and it sounds like a houseful of fun! Sometimes I wish to be in the midst of such!
You go, girl!
ARI

Well how about if you come here for a week and I'll stay at your place, alone!

LOL, Bluebird! I would probably not fair very well in that "swap!"
Love,
Ari

Chicken!!!