I love this site. My brain is overloaded with all the talk that sounds just like my marriage. But.....I've been married for 41 years, and I've done everything you all have done. Went to marriage counseling x3. Didn't work. We got out of it that we don't love each other and never did. It was for me to get out of the house(18 yrs old)and he was lonely(21 yrs old) Now, I've learned that I kept my mouth shut because I thought he knew what I was going thru, and he's turned into a very selfish man. Why do I stay? I don't know. I have gone thru the "why didn't I get out of this marriage earlier thing." And the "I sure wasted my life." But, not really. I have two beautiful daughters(40 and 36) and four beautiful grandsons. I consider them as my reward to staying in this marriage. Do I get out after 41 years? I have an attorney, and a Financial Advisor. I've logged in on the Divorce site, and the new member site, but this one seems to be the right one! Even my daughters think I should get out of the marriage, but........I'm CHICKEN!