Thank you daisygirl, your input is great also. She has wanted counselling for them both but he refuses. I know her support network will get her thru this, I just don't want to be all preachy about what she should do. She knows that I am there for her, I even told her she can go to our house and camp there (since we aren't at home right now). I am so sorry and angry for her. I will be her friend as best I can, but I sure do wish it were different for her right now. She has helped me thru a lot of rough passages in my life, best I can do is be there in whatever way! Thanks again!