Judy, I'm sorry your friend has to go through this trying time. I've been in her shoes, except that my ex didn't want the divorce, he just wanted the gf. There really is nothing you can say that will make this alright. All you can do is continue to be her friend, and if at all possible, try to give her a little more of your time, even if it's a phone call or you could send her a card of encouragement. She needs to know you love and care.

On another note, there are some things you could encourage her to do that will help her recover from her loss. It would help her to get into a support group, such as a divorce recovery at a church or hospital. Maybe your friend could ask someone she is close to, to meet her for lunch or something periodically, such as weekly or bi-weekly so she will feel supported.

Daisygirl