Blue66, This entire situation with your meandering husband is wrong, wrong, wrong. You told him how you feel, how it hurts you and still he chats with another woman, maybe more who knows? You said the good outweighs the bad yet I wonder what you consider is the good?? In a marriage another woman is another woman whether he chats on line, on the phone, to her face or just drools over her picture, any of this is cheating, taking time away from you and the relationship to spend it with another woman. I hope you remain here at the BWS site as well I have a feeling you're going to need all the friends you have before long when chatting isn't enough for this cheat... Oh and I agree with you about the thong thing, the way they cover why wear anything at all????