Blue you wrote "Anyway, anytime I have ever confronted him about these situations, he blows his stack and accuses me of snooping and not trusting him and says he must have his privacy and why do I want to mess things up since our relationship is so GREAT"

Ask him what is SO great about it. ANd then ask yourself.

I hope you find a way to work this out. My prayers are with you,

Blessings
Andria