Thanks to all for caring.Chatty, I like your motto, when in doubt, do nothing!! I have been in therapy in the past and have gone again for this new thing. I do have issues of my own, but always get to the point in counseling that HE really needs to come, too, which I will push for next month. I asked him again last night"What do you talk abou with her!! and he refuses to answer which to me means that what they talk about is not appropriate. But he is really good to me and I know he loves me and again, it's not like he goes anywhere so there isnt' physical cheating, but it's so hard not to think that anytime I might annoy him he'll discuss it with her, etc. I did ask him why she would still email him when she knows that it hurts me. She's supposedly married...what comes around, someday someone will hurt her, too. IT's easy to say things are innocent when you are not the injured party.