I want to share, but I have to ask Ross first since some of the BWS lurkers are friends, family members, and his patients.

I can see one of his patients coming in for an eye exam and saying, "so you and you wife have sex so many times a week". That might throw him a little.



Smile, your reply just goes to show it has nothing to do with age. Interesting, huh?

I wanted to add that I received an anonymous story from a lovely woman who was married and her husband and she rarely made love. She loves him dearly, but he wasn't a very sexual person. She shared how she finally got over the guilt of using a vibrator to please herself.

I intend to use her story because one never knows how many women it could help.

offends anyone? This post? Are you kidding me? This is the closest I've BEEN to s-e-x in many years...

JJ

My husband has been very supportive of me as I go through my bipolar, depression, anxiety, and such. He suffers from a lagging libido and mine took off one day and hasn't returned.

But, I gotta tell you.. the intimacy and connection we have with each other is still there. We can still make each other shiver.

Maybe my libido will come back from wherever it went. We'll see.

I'm watching Oprah right now! We hardly ever have sex, which is an issue. My desire went bye-bye with the hormone deficiency and has not returned; plus the RA and Fibromyalgia make touching "hurt." We are looking for something to work around this, but frankly, I'd rather watch a movie together at this point. I absolutely hate this, but it's like the switch has been turned off and my husband IS getting short-changed - as am I.

I'm interested in seeing everyone's responses.

We've been married 28 yrs this October. We have survived my personality disorder, death of our son, bills and bankruptcy.

How ?

Because we make love (almost) every morning.

Crazy 30 min like the porno flicks do it sex ????

NOOOOOOooo that he's lucky if he gets once in a blue moon

BUT - daily hubby gets up and takes a shower - shaves - then crawls back in bed to warm his freezing feet then (my back to him) he rubs my back - and shoulders - (by now he knows exactly where it hurts) -- it gives him calm time and as my blood starts to flow thru these old veins and my muscles relax -- it wakes me up to feeling glad to be alive -- we lay in that same position - both on our sides - cuddled up next to each other and make slow loving love -- all of about 5 min worth

he's ready to take on the world - i dont have to worry about being "messy" all night and i start my day off with a nice hot shower and all is right in our world

for everybody ???? maybe not -- but its what we've done to fit love making into our world of kids, bills and stess

Sounds like heaven Lionspaaw and you can make book your husband isn't one of the callers on the phone sex lines. Ladies don't kid yourself, men are men and they will have what they want or a reasonable fact simile. Its there nature, they can't help themselves? The men I talk to about this truly love their families but have needs and phone sex keeps them from fighting with or resenting their mates....Sad but true....

Lion, you're my kind of girl. Sounds like you are your husband's kind of girl too.
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P.S. Dots, For pete's sake, I'm not that old. Ain't ever gonna' be either.

Dan just got home from work. I asked him on a scale of one to ten how he ranked sex in our marriage.
He said, "Two-hundred and fifty?"
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If I asked my hubby that question he'd probably say, what sex life? We don't see each other that often. But when we do...sweet!