I am not the owner of this forum and don't pretend to be. But in Dotsie's absence today, I'm going to say this for the benefit of EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THIS FORUM.

I'm not picking on anyone either. If you think I am, then you are wrong and are probably just a bit dog barking. After what I've read here this week and last week, I've just had enough! From the emails I've had, other members have too.

After I say this, you can and probably will attack me but I'm a big girl and can take it. Bring it on. I don't give a rip. I'm so sick of the bickering! Good Lord women. This reminds me of junior high.

Listen up ladies, STOP the bickering. If it doesn't stop here and now, this forum will go away and cease to exist. Is that what you want? Do you know how close that is to happening?

State your opinions and do so glady! This is what Boomer Women Speak is all about. You have not only tried, encouraged, and drawn people out to argue and fight, but once they stop, you've tried to keep it going.

When someone has their say, let it be. That is their opinion. Give yours. Both are valuable, and in some cases, invaluable to someone needing to hear it.

WE ALL HAVE A VOICE. ALL OF US.

Which part of OUR VOICES do you not get?

Am I mad? Damn straight. I've had it!

People are leaving the this forum right and left because of all of the fighting and griping of a small number of people. I know because they tell me. Is this what you want to happen?

For those of us who would like to have a place to come and share, to heal, to love, to form new friendships...well, it's just not happening and now people, especially new members, are afraid to speak out.

The fighting and bitching at each other has gotten out of control. Its going on all over the boards, too.

STOP IT!

Can I say that? You bet I can. Now I am NOT pointing fingers or taking sides or anything else but sick and tired of reading where people are waving fingers and shouting and name calling and good Lord, using emotional blackmail to hurt others publicly.

I will tell you this, if it doesn't cease and cease now, Dotsie will and SHOULD pull the plug on this forum and then what?

Ladies...remember why we are here? Just because someone's opinion differs from your own doesn't make you OR them RIGHT! It makes you different...

If you can't get along, then get along I say! Its that simple.

Who am I to tell you all this? I'll tell you who I am.

I am your friend, that's who. I'm someone who cares deeply for this forum and dares to say to anyone who would bring trouble, heartache, and misery to others to stop it.

I'm a member, one of the first of BOOMER WOMEN SPEAK and I love each and every person in it. EVERYONE. Every single one of you.

I don't want to see anyone leave with hurt feelings, and I don't want to see others bully them into doing so. I don't want to see anyone leave at all! Stay! Help each other, share, bond.

It is great we have standards in our lives that we live by, it wonderful that we have views that differ, but for the love of Mike, don't berate someone else because theirs differs from your own. Isn't that what this forum is all about?

People are leaving here right and left and guess what...........this one single thing is the reason. They are tired of the fighting and bickering displayed here.

You know what else? I am too. Sick of it that is, but I ain't leaving. I love this place and I'm speaking my piece, which is usually done in humor and love and light. Well tonight it isn't. Tonight I am saying this.

GO BACK AND READ THE MISSION STATEMENT.

I read today, just TODAY in the Bible where it said the greatest commandments are:

Never have any other Gods before me, and
Love thy neighbor as thy self.

Whether or not you believe in the Bible isn't the point here ladies. But loving your neighbor is.

If we did that, then there wouldn't be any bickering. AND THAT....is what this forum is all about.

Capish?

JJ