Karen,

This group is inclusive! There are many women who are not officially "boomers"....all are welcome! (except men, of course!) lol!

d.

[ October 02, 2005, 01:28 PM: Message edited by: Danita ]

A baby boomer today is all inclusive of all the worries already mentioned. All the while we are a generation of:

Grandparents raising grandchildren
Looking after our parents
Some still have older children home - TOO OLD
Some have very young children of their own
Empty nesters
Some needing care already

Many in need or in the middle of many of these things at once.

The gamet of problems runs far, wide, and deep! It scares me when I start to think of all the problems the baby boomer woman faces today!
And man!

One issue not mentioned, and a delicate one, is finding family. Some of us have children we haven't seen since birth. Others are searching for our parent(s).

I have been lucky enough to have found who I was looking for - it took 12 long years searching daily, yes daily, and a lot of money so I know the in's and outs of searching. I am writing a book about it called "A War Baby's Cry" (soon to be published, I hope)

There are "many issues" to consider when searching for a loved one. There are do's and don'ts, what if's etc. I know a few short cuts and round about ways. That first phone call...and in my case the lingering question, is he still alive?

I have various paperwork/information for every state and province in the USA and Canada.
I offer my expertise to any of you who are on our boomer site searching for a loved one(child, parent, sibling).

I won't search for you, but I will give you the information you need or answer questions you might have. Information is Power, as they say.

You are welcome to PM me and keep it confidential if you like. No, it is not going to cost anything...it is my way of giving back for having succeeded in finding my Dad.

I finished work yesterday....so I will be a regular here again.

chick

Thanks for the welcome, gals. Chick-that is such a wonderful story! I'm glad it worked out for you and that you're wanting to share your expertise. I located the "sperm donor", excuse the expression, but that's all he was. Never a father to me only treated my mom like crud. But, I needed to find him and did. The "reunion" lasted for almost two months before I decided that he was not someone I needed in my life. But, I miss my little brothers that he has with his new wife and I miss her, too. If I could just have contact with them and not him.

[ October 02, 2005, 03:51 PM: Message edited by: Happy Wife & Mom 9804 ]

Happy, thanks for sharing - yes, not all reunions are blissful. I always say to the person searching - be careful what you wish for.

Also, you go looking for one, but there are other family members connected to that ONE. I found two sisters and two brothers and their families and over 100 other relatives. We had a reunion of my Dad's family by a cousin so we could all meet. It was a wonderfully nervous time.

My Dad passed on three years ago (we shared 3 yrs) but I stay in contact with everyone else.
I am sorry that it didn't work out between you and your Dad but I hope you find a way to stay in contact with your little brothers. How old are they?

chick

Well, I haven't been able to talk to them since this all happened bc of not wanting to get back involved in contact with HIM. But they are around 9, 16 18. I really miss them alot. And I only spent a little time with them! I only met them when I went to visit, but they hooked onto my heart.