Dotsie...What you said just sparked a thought in me. One of the things I think I value the most about this quandry we call menopause/middle age is the honesty that seems to come with it. I find the women friends I have now through work and church and even the ones I've seen posting here,to be very "real".Maybe the passing of the years brings with it a longing for what is true and a stripping away of all else that isn't as important. I value that, and I don't mind as much when the hard questions are asked- God's giving me the strength to search for answers and good friends around me to support me and help! We are blessed.... :)Sera