Dear KateRyan...I'm new here, but just wanted to respond briefly to this thread. Fifty spoke a LOT of wisdom in her response, and she's totally correct when it comes to the numbers of women who do the "lying awake in the dark" thing. I've begun that myself, and it's not a lot of fun. As someone who's been divorced and is now re-married, Fifty's caution about the difficulties of divorce rings really true with me. A lot of your life is laid waste when you part company with your spouse, and it takes so much strength to find your way (and your children's way) through the ordeal. I'll pray for guidance for you and for peace in whatever circumstances of life you find yourself in. Blessings...S.