Smile, you're sooo funny. I love that you can have such an approach (the calculations w/therapist). That was so funny to me. That is also wonderful that you were/are able to 'get over' it so well.

Unfortunately, some of us attend these sessions with real issues and have to pay dearly. Not just monetarily, but that trip back down memory lane can really cost.

My situation was serious (incest by father and step). So, when I went in for PTSD as mentioned by Dots in an earlier post, my session were quite different.

Trust me, those of you that CAN go there with the attitude exhibited here, are very lucky/blessed.

I've since worked through many of the issues. I worked with a friend that 'claimed' the same as you all but she was 'stuck' in an abusive relationship. Although I am not a therapist, I had learned enough to coach her into digging deep enough to find herself...her self that 'learned' the behaviour to accept what she and her children endured, daily, weekly, monthly for over ten years.

I feel good about my unprofessional 'digging' into her past. Although she would never admit it, and I wouldn't want her to, my therapy helped both of us. She had to realize that she learned this behaviour first hand, straight from her mother. Her mother passed from a heart related illness. Was it the stress of the man she'd given her entire life to choosing to be with another? Who can say exactly what rushed her untimely death. I don't think that 50 is old enough to die suddenly, especially after learning that the love of your life loves somebody else...

Just a thought.