danita, please go back to my post of 11-07 about my daughter - i know it is easy to get mixed up with what you've read from whom in these threads - they get kind of tangled now and then.

your daughter is a very lucky girl and has a wise and loving mom. it is so hard to know what to do when our kids want to fly before we think they are ready.

my oldest boy wanted to elope when a soph. in high school. we got them to wait and they did get married when he was 21. we were so relieved and put on a big splash of a wedding. DIL is a blessing to our family and they have blessed us with our first grandchild, a little girl who is now 9 mo. old. i get to be her day care granny so am having a great time with her.

my 22 yr. old son is downstairs with his girlfriend right now. i really like her but they haven't been going out very long and am hoping they don't try to do the overnight thing here already. we didn't KNOWINGLY let his brother his lady sleep together here and i was hoping this one wouldn't challenge us on it.

i know they will do what they want to but i don't feel we have to provide the place. on the other hand, if the worst thing a kid does anymore is sleep with their future mate, i guess we should consider ourselves lucky. i wonder sometimes if we relax our standards through rationalization or for genuine changes in our attitudes.

i'm tired and talking myself into a corner so better quit and go to bed.