Tami, great idea to focus on his mroals and integrity only. I need to share this with a friend. Thank you.

You're welcome!

She might have to kiss a couple of toads but one of them will turn into a prince if she doesn't compromise on the truly important stuff!

Tami

Looks aren't everything and some of the handsomest men I know are such jerks. My problem is the man that I thought would turn into a Prince with time, went from a kinda cute toad to rthe creature from the black lagoon....

[ April 03, 2006, 06:35 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Oh my, this brings back memories! I almost didn't accept a date from my beloved husband because he wasn't "cute". I would have missed my soul mate and the best husband a woman could have ever had. By the way, we met through our newspaper's personal ads and were married two months and two days later! Been married going on thirteen years and I don't regret one single day. To me he's the handomest man anywhere?

Happy and in love with someone who has a wonderful loving heart!

Sherri

Thats true Anne327 and unfortunately when women rush into something to soon it allows these deceitful men to keep their best foot forward tricking us into thinking they are alright guys. If kept around long enough their armor begins to tarnish and the rust shows through, so take your time and test the waters....

I was sooo gullable when I was first divorced. I thought my jerk x was the exception, that most men would be decent. Boy was I ever wrong!

Divorce happens every minute of every working day and there always are fresh victims and perps being released into the world.

People who marry after only knowing the guy only a few months are very lucky if they end up with a good one. They can fake decency for that amount of time.

Daisygirl

Anne, your comment about CSI made me laugh.

I've been happily married for 26 years. I can't imagine trying to get to the bottom of who some of these single men are. I would probably be just as inquisitive as you.

Good for you Anne327, it pays to be cautious. The one time in my always cautious, suspicious life I faltered and didn't listen to my little voice screaming at me "danger, danger!" I made the biggest mistake of my life and am still suffering the remnants of that mistake these many years later. I warn anyone out looking for love or even just companionship...GO SLOW...anne said it all, thats why these loser types are in such a hurry to pin you down so its harder, nearly impossible to get rid of them later.

The problem is that the next woman will let these boys disguised as men get by with it. How did the world get so many bad men? I know we aren't all meeting the same few.

I am still talking to my high school guy. (no he's not still in h.s., he's my age) he-he We are not really dating and have only seen each other in person one time. I now feel comfortable waiting for him to call me, and I feel just as comfortable calling him, which is something I NEVER did in the past. It's not all about the chase with him and he is giving me the opportunity to respond in my own good time. I can't predict what will happen, but it is a refreshing change.

Anne, I share your philosophy. I've been single mostly for the last 15 years and as soon as I find out they're bad, it's bbye, so long, adios, farewell....... I've been lonely sometimes, but when you're single and lonely you can do something about it.

Daisygirl

[ April 14, 2006, 06:06 PM: Message edited by: Daisygirl ]

I have to add one more type of dangerous man to the list. The closet gay who hides inside normal relationships/marriages. Personally, I think he is the most dangerous because he will bring a one or more of the other elements you have listed in as well.

They don't look gay, they don't act gay. The can play the part with the best romance you have ever had, but once they have you hooked they loose interest and it's too late.

Take all the feelings and damaged emotions that you have experienced from cheaters and liars, etc and multiply by x 10 because the 'competition' isn't even female......and people tend to look at you as if you somehow made them gay.....

There is a great tendency to go into the closet when they come out. It's sad, lonely and dangerous for the woman.

Anyway I'm soapboxing again. Just add closet gays to the list.