McCartney once asked, "All the Lonly People, where do they all come from?" That song never registered with me. I was happy. I had friends, relatives, what did I know about lonilness? Well times have changed. I am now 47 years old. My mom and dad are gone. The only relative I have left is my brother, whom I rarely see. We have one set of friends, out of state, who we see once a year. And starting this year we became empty nesters. I'm at home, allowing the emptyness to get the best of me. My father had more life in him in his eighties than I do now. He on the other hand was surrounded by friends.

I came to this site and was at first welcomed by a warm group of people and for the first time felt surrounded by friends. But like all groups, it take one bully to scare you away. So again, the loneliness sets in.

[ February 24, 2006, 04:26 PM: Message edited by: suzieq ]

Here I am... I am new to this site and was wondering how to jump in. I too am looking for friends - or at least A friend. This is not new to me, but when I was married at least I had another warm body and occasional companionship. I have tried church but that "isn't my bag." I don't want to work on committees, I want to have FUN! I am in two supper clubs and when we meet I feel so much different after a social outlet, but these happen only once a month and not every month. The other downside to this is a work at a job that is very isolating (typing - medical transcription) Anyhow, you ARE NOT ALONE!

I began throwing parties at our home. I invited my girlfriend who would play the piano and sing and invited my new neighbors. This really helped ease our way into a new town. You might try it.

Welcome to both you suzieq and you, morningbelle. You will find many many of us meet here everyday and have become close personal friends. You can vent, ask questions, gripe and cry or laugh, no one judges anyone here and we all are supportive and many in the same boat as you. Some married, some divorced, kids, grandkids, no kids everyone fits in. Morningbelle you live in a state many of our gals reside in and that may be something good for you. I'm not too sure suzieq about CT. Just come on in and post away and make friends. My friends here where I live get angry becaue I am hardly ever available to go fooling around and am always here on line....WELCOME!

Welcome to you suzieq and morningbelle. You came to the right place for making friends. I haven't been here very long, but the women are wonderful to talk to and share with.

I'm an empty nester who lives in NH. I'm in a good place in my life right now, but it took me a long time to get there. I am sure you will gets lots of much better advice than I can give you, so I'll just say hello for now.

Hi, suqieq! Don't feel alone anymore! We are always here (some, like me, are insomniacs and get on late at night when we can't sleep!) I know that lonely, isolated feeling only too well, and you can overcome it! You will love it here!

Suzieq, I can relate so well to your loneliness, except for the empty nest, since I was never able to have children. But after my Dad and Mom died, I fell apart. Still on the mend, but being here has been tremendously healing. So I encourage you to take your shoes off, make yourself comfortable and nestle right in here...it's a really good place to be!

Morningbelle, welcome to you too! I've been on this site all morning and am getting cross-eyed (this place is that addictive!), so have to take a break. But I just wanted to add my voice to the warm welcome and look forward to hearing your voice around here.

Suzieq please try to reconnect with your brother. You and he share a history unlike that of anyone else you know. It's never too late. Come to our website often and tell us what's concerning you, we'll listen. I rarely saw my two brothers too and we live within 55 minutes of each other. I had to reconnect over and over until it finally stuck. Just call him. Make plans to go out to dinner together. Good luck, you're not alone!

[ November 16, 2005, 01:44 PM: Message edited by: ladybug ]

suzieq, A warm welcome to you. I think being without my Mom is the hardest thing of all for me. I can relate to you saying your Dad had more going for him at his age than you do. Same here. This transition stage for us is so difficult.

MORNINGBELLE, a warm welcome to you also. I don't feel as alone or lonely since being here. We are a comfort to each other. I thank God for this place.
Hope we hear more from both of you.
chick