As I read your descriptions of the members of your group, my first thought was, "Boy there's some unique characters." My second thought was, "Good grief, they sound like my own critique group." My third thought was, "They sound like every critique group I've ever been in." Then I thought, "I've probably been those characters at times."

My current critique group which I formed about 12 years ago is smart, helpful, weird, self centered, jealous, undisciplined, and absolutely spectacular. Best of all, we love each other. And even when we selfishly believe we are the ones who should have won the prize or gotten published, we help each other.
We've all held and hold very responsible jobs and been very well organized all of our lives. Our writing is our one total rebellion.
A while back a new member insisted everyone bring a specific number of copies and that we all print in 12 point Times New Roman. Well that's a minor thing, but it's a rule and the claws came out. Even the most copied, best printed, and most well organized went berserk. No one was willing to submit to a rule.
We ranted then concluded that our only rule is that there are no rules. The guy is still with us and he's beginning to focus on his writing rather than rules.

I believe I learn from myself as well as from others in my critique group. The meetings give me a deadline and somehow reading my work aloud before the group shows up my defects and imspires me to improve.

Meredith, I think you must do what you have to do to protect your art, but your poetry and jewelry are so beautiful and your spirit is so strong, I doubt anyone or any group could harm it.

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