This is a great thread and has me thinking different this year. Last year my 3 grown kids had a huge fallout. Still do. I suffered through the holidays terribly. Not this year. I've a renewed attitude.
I hate cooking since I've gotten older, don't need all the baked goodies anyway. I've always hated sending out cards so this year, I'll eliminate them. I only really write a note to a few anyway. With email and cell phones now, it might be nicer to spend the money on a call to them. I know I'd enjoy that better.
As far as gifts go, I've already informed my kids to not give us gifts this year. We don't really NEED anything. I've asked them to give to charity if they feel the need to give. Or better yet, give of their time to someone in need.
I have 7 grandchildren and will buy for them. I enjoy that.
You all had such good replies and seem to be a caring group. I've just joined today and think I'm going to like it here. Thanks for letting me vent.
Julie