Oh my God, Dreamer, that is so sad. I think you just need to give her the space and wait till she gets beyond this present stage. It will change. She will, hopefully, grow. She is probably also reacting to the loss of your dad. Maybe you should make clear to your daughter that you have no expectation of being like your own mother. If not, I'm sure your daughter will eventually figure that our on her own. It's so tough, I know - and I do sympathize with you. Hang in there, she will come around.

Erica