Not Much,

Hello, I am fairly new also, 57, married, and an empty nester. Three sons, 36-divorced-single, 30-married, and 24-this mo 25-married. The oldest has a daughter 17, son 16 and younger son 14. The middle son has a 4 yr old son. The youngest son has a 5yr old son-hers-but he IS ours now and a 21 mo old son.

So that is 3 sons, 5 grandsons and 1 granddaughter. LOL

My D'sIL are totally different! My 30 yr olds wife, just doesn't like me much, no matter how hard I try. We only see them once a yr, so it isn't like I wear out my welcome or something. She hardly will talk to me at all, and she is NOT shy! After 5 yrs, I have decided I love how she loves my son and grandson and treats them, and I think she respects how I love my son and grandson! I think that is as good as I am going to get! My 24 yr olds wife, I want to adopt, but her parents wont let me. LOL She is warm and inviting and so lovely. She is precious to me! We are so close. I think it is just different pesonality types and that is all.

I still have a fairly good relationship with my ex-DIL. She respects us and knows how much we love the our 3 oldest grandchildren. We can't really be friends, because my loyalty has to lie with my son, and they have just started to get along after 10 yrs of divorcee, but she understands this and is not resentful towards us. My husband and I have even spent 2 Christmas's with her and her husband now and the grand kids and spent the nights with them that we were there.

Being a MIL is tricky, because you are dealing with another individual that has choice to accept you or not! I have learned to be as nice as I can, but not let it bother me that the one DIL just doesn't care to get close to me. My son and she have a wonderful marriage, my son & grandson are still close to me, and that is what counts!

WELCOME! I think you will really enjoy the women here. They are great! I think you will find a discussion about MIL on the forum under life or something such. See you around!