It takes some longer than others but once we discover who we are and are happy with ourselves, we have it made. I am going book shopping soon and looking for your book.

I'm sorry that some of you gals are widows. I agree. It sounds
like a sad word. But I'm glad that many of you have strong
spirits and healthy self-esteem. Prayers and blessings...

I have never exactly been the Merry Widow myself but have learned to be a self sufficient one and although I still at times talk to my dear departed, I am doing fine. It takes a while but does happen.

I find it sickening that I lost two wonderful husbands when they passed away and this one, number three, seems to be indestructable. My mom said today on the phone that, "The devil takes care of his own." I believe she is right about that...

Laurel, you mention a marriage of 42 years. You hardly look that age in your photo.

This post made me think and I would have been married 53 years this coming April and don't even look 53. How cool is that?.

Being a widow is no fun especially if all your friends were couple friends and they are still both together. I was shocked how many of my married girlfriends had stopped calling and inviting me to things. They acted like now single I was some sort of hungry predator after their man, geesh!!! I will say that some of the men did try to getr a little too friendly BUT that wasn't my fault!

There are a group of women here in town calling themselves Gals Galore... They are all widows and live alone or with older children. I was invited to join and told it was something like the Purple/Red hat women. They are very social and help one another every way possible. They travel together, go dancing, biking, walking, bowling etc., and even have a community garden on one womens property, but mostly they just have fun. Sounds interesting so I am going to check it out.

Went to the first meeting and thanks but no thanks! I could trell just by quietly listening to what went on it wasn't for me. Too much back stabbing when someone left the room and too much worry about fashion and makeup etc., Oh well, I will keep looking sround for some down to earth ladies.

Sorry the gals group didn't work out for you, but you'll find another one that's perfect for you. I'm still hanging out with several other crocheters/knitters a couple of times a week. We call our group Chains & Purls & we've been together for about 4 years now. We've gotten to know each other, celebrated birthdays & mourned along with two of the gals who've lost their husbands during that time. We laugh about the knitting/crocheting being just an excuse to get together & have fun, laugh & be silly. One member calls them therapy sessions. LOL! Maybe it's not a group of widows you need, just a group of happy gals who enjoy each other's company. It's a pity you don't live near here, you'd make a great addition to our little group.