There is no doubt elder care brings up worries..I had this as a young wife..and it is totally overwhelming.

I hear of sudden unexpected deaths..and those whose lives need support in the final years..no matter how we are called to cope..
EW I send hugs and wish I could help even to sit in your car while you visit..
and Dotsie it must be difficult even when there are many others..

we see two sides of the coin in your posts ladies..