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#20576 - 08/30/05 07:23 AM
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Registered: 08/02/05
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Loc: FL
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Oh my gosh! I am sitting here crying as I type this. Talk about a thread stiking a chord. I hate to admit it, but I've felt really lonely the last few years. Here I am constantly surrounded by the most wonderful teams of doctors and a husband who has supported me through a really rough time, and yet, when I read Chatty's words, I just welled up and erupted in absolute recognition. I wrote in the Illness thread about all the physical stuff that hasn't killed me, but I swear, sometimes, it seems like it will be the loneliness that does me in. Like so many others, I am trying to take baby steps but they are limited by my medical issues right now, which is why I am so grateful for the internet. It is so good not to feel alone. Thank you to each and every one of you, and here's to all of us finding our purpose and to the support we can find here while we make our journeys.
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#20579 - 08/29/05 09:44 PM
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Registered: 03/22/05
Posts: 4876
Loc: Canada
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quote: Originally posted by Dianne: I've been thinking that while the Internet keeps us connected, it can also serve to keep us home and not venturing out to meet new people.
Dianne, I've often wondered about that too. I do force myself to go out more now than I did before I came to BWS...I think that's a sign of the healing that's happening inside of me. And yet, even when I'm out and enjoying myself "out there", I can't wait til I get home and get on-line to see what's happening here at my "other home". I love the people I meet here, and I'm thoroughly enjoying getting to know more about each of the women I meet here. I dare to believe that's also a healthy sign of the healing that's happening here.
quote: Even when my husband comes home, I feel lonely so it's an internal problem, not him.
Me too! Not as bad as before I met him, and I'm not as lonely with him as I am without him, but it's still there. [ August 29, 2005, 02:46 PM: Message edited by: Eagle Heart ]
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#20580 - 08/30/05 01:35 AM
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Registered: 08/25/05
Posts: 1052
Loc: Ohio
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Katebcca, Here's another lonely one. My work is also lonely. I'm an office product manufacturer's rep and work from home. I don't have co-workers.......well, except for Daisy, and she is a good friend, but she doesn't say much. I don't even talk much on the phone anymore because everything is done by email! Of course there is more to it than that, but I don't want to write a book here.
Last week I read Suzzane Somers book and I discovered how our hormones could affect us mentally and emotionally. I knew it, but I guess I hadn't accepted it for myself. Could a hormone imbalance cause loneliness? I think it could. Oh, sure, we all have had disappointments, struggles, and hardship, but what keeps us (me) from doing what we need to do to prevent it?
In my past I've done many things to combat loneliness, such as volunteering at a shelter, at the local theatre, I participated in various Christian-based studies, ministries, etc. And, don't forget dating! Of course my motive wasn't always to combat loneliness, because at the time I didn't realize I was.
Katebcca, although I feel that you should definitely get those paints out, the thing I believe will combat your loneliness is to be with other people - you need people! My town has an organization that supports local artists, maybe your could find something like that.
The bottom line is that we have to make the effort to participate in life and no one can do it for us. Now I just have to find a way to take my own advice.
Daisygirl
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#20583 - 08/31/05 07:56 AM
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Registered: 05/24/04
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Loc: Arizona
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I like to go to the book store and see what's out there. Grab a cup of coffee and sit in the little cafe and look through a book I might buy. And of course, I like to go to my favorite store and check out what shoes have arrived. Sometimes, I grab something for lunch and go to the boutique where my daughter works and share it with her. I also love to find a new neighborhood and walk through the model homes. I get a lot of great ideas on decorating and style. My favorite is to have a girls night at my house with a theme and we each contribute a dish toward the theme. It's always so much fun.
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