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#205214 - 06/29/10 07:40 PM
Re: Shocked!!!
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 06/27/05
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Loc: Alabama
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Oh, Chatty...you have my sympathies for sure...I love how you responded to him putting the issue of him not doing anything back on him. You go mom! I can relate to the cheapness of a child...my case, step-son. But, he'll tell you he's tight-fisted and doesn't apologize for it. Let us know what he does for your birthday...what would he do if you didn't acknowledge him on his birthday? What goes around comes around.
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#205223 - 06/30/10 04:26 AM
Re: Shocked!!!
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 09/09/08
Posts: 779
Loc: American living in Germany
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Oh Chatty, I would be mad too. And the 70th birthday is a big one. It’s terrible that he forgot it. Something like this could happen with my own sons…that’s why I remind them…weeks ahead!!! Lol. Pride? Who me? No, it’s not a matter of pride, it’s a matter of kicking axx. Sorry…but my sons often get my goat too. You aren’t alone here. Another thing, in Germany birthday parties are celebrated a bit differently. The birthday person gives the party, and invites everyone out to eat or at their place. That way, no one can forget. In exchange, you get invited to a lot of parties as well. It evens out. So maybe, next time, do it the German way. Invite friends and family over to your party, that way nobody can forget.
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#205262 - 06/30/10 09:38 AM
Re: Shocked!!!
[Re: jawjaw]
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Registered: 03/22/05
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Loc: Canada
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Just contributing my two-cents worth of venting...I absolutely detest the way my hubby's son treats him. They live 30 minutes away. We've bought everything and anything for their children (though we're still not allowed to see them right now, nobody is). We've bought expensive snowsuits, bicycles, outfitted the GD with all of her school clothes, give big gift cards (at their request) for all occasions. But he never phones. Never acknowledges his father's birthdays or Father's Day.
In our family, we adored our father. And I would give anything to be able to phone him, cook for him, visit him, celebrate him. So it's incomprehensible how this son can treat his father so miserably...with no excuse. My husband is so generous, paid his son's way all through university, has helped in whatever way ever asked for...all for nothing in return. It really makes me angry.
There, that's my vent. Breathe deep. Now I'll let it go, again.
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#205275 - 06/30/10 12:56 PM
Re: Shocked!!!
[Re: jawjaw]
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Registered: 03/22/05
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Loc: Canada
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Thanks JJ. While there's no excuse, I suppose we would have to factor in his wife's bullying...everyone in the house is afraid of her, she flies into these terrible tantrums if you just look at her wrong (and you never know from one moment to the next what her definition of "wrong" is). Very verbally abusive to hubby's son. He's been wanting out for a long time, but she always threatens to take the children overseas so he's afraid he'll never see them again. Very, very sad. The whole situation makes me sad - and angry when I think about it, which I try not to as much anymore.
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#205301 - 07/01/10 04:23 AM
Re: Shocked!!!
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Registered: 12/30/05
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"everyone in the house is afraid of her"
Eagle do you think she is afraid also when this happens..
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#205307 - 07/01/10 07:32 AM
Re: Shocked!!!
[Re: jawjaw]
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So often if we really listen then the questioner answers their question themselves..often as an afterthought..Eagle perhaps you can think if my point is so.. But nothing can be resolved if the person with the anger does not acknowledge this themself..and take action.
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