Update:
My son has now been clean for 3 months. He is living at a home that takes his type in. They are former alcoholics (clean for 30 years) and work in corrections. They take two people tops into their own home and help them to stay on track. They have AA meetings at their home, are very involved in AA and took my son in, for that I am truly thankful.

He has had little success going to a recovery type home. These places house 10 to 50 men and my son was not successful in these settings. Too many of the same type, too many temptations, people relapsing and dragging many down with them.

The other thing my son did differently this time was go on a methadone program. This helps with the cravings and terrible side effects of withdrawal and keeps them stable. Some people don't agree with methadone as it is also a drug, but you can function on it. You have to go to the drug store every day and get the methadone. They don't give you a months worth like most drugs and send you on your way. You can only get one dose a day. They reduce the amount every week. My son is now completely off it.

He is in a school program and doing well.

I spent Christmas with him and had a wonderful time. He is always one step away from relapsing but I am holding on to the positives. We talk on the phone every day or every other day and he is learning so much about himself. He misses me, his family and where he is staying is just not home. But he appreciates these people so much and is thankful for them.

So for now I am counting my blessings.

Just wanted to share.
Kate