Well, my son has come and gone..and I miss him so much. We had a lovely Christmas Holiday with him here..and both I and his dad, saw quite alot of him..much more than I thought we would, actually. And yes, Dotsie..he matured very much since leaving for college this past fall. I think that since his dad´s illness (stroke), he has done alot of thinking and maturing. It is wonderful to experience. He has become a very loving, caring and empathetic young man. In some ways I feel a bit of sorrow because the boy/man with all his gusto and energy and fast replies to everyone and everything has become a quieter man..and some of his humor is gone. But he still believes in the future and believes in being happy and working at being just that. Soo..well, it´s the way of life, right?

I just wanted to write and tell you all kind ladies that have shared my thoughts here and helped me think..that just as you said..my son and his dad DID work out the financial details of his tuition..and all is arranged for now. And I didn´t put my big nose into any of it. They did it all by themselves I am so glad that I listened to you ladies here.

Thank you!

Ps. Dotsie..there is very much truth in what you wrote above here. My daughter who lives here in Sweden told me. not too long ago, in EXACTLY the words you use here..to BACK OFF!!! It was during the time when her dad, my former husband, was so very very ill. But there IS alot to what she said to me. I could see that after getting over the shock and hurt of her words. I am almost ashamed to write about this..as I thought I was a "back off" sort of mom..but I guess that I am not. So..I go on learning how to be a mom and a person in this life of ours.

Thank you again everyone!!!