Originally Posted By: humlan
My feeling is that my x could be more involved..and I recognize this lack of behavior from our married days long before the stroke. But then..I have not had a stroke..yet.

He says that he does have the money right now to pay for what is due to the college..but he is waiting because he wants assurances from our son..and then, me, too. He says that he wants our son "to learn" that life is serious..I think he has already done that and is managing financially on his own otherwise. But both my son and I were living under the assumption that his dad would pay for this year,too. He had his stroke shortly before my son left for college..which means that he must have had the means at that time. As he actually does right now.

Should I get involved..or leave them to it? I need help to think.. I am currently living with my partner of about 8 yrs.


Don't support financially. You are 3 yrs. away from retirement. Your own survival is necessary and primary. Can't assume your partner will always have a steady job. House of cards can go down easily.

I'm lost ..does your son not work part-time? Frankly, I hear way too many stories of parents paying thousands many thousands of dollars for their children's college/university education. When I went to university, I knew alot of peers were earning their own money with only abit of financial help from parents. Have times changed that much???

There are other adult children...who work to pay for part/all of their education or they pay the thousands of debt after graduation. This is what happens in many college/university students here in Canada. Yes, it takes them several years to pay off the debt. This is reality.

Your x is sick but he could sell his house eventually..for a smaller place.

maybe your son needs to defer his college education for 1 year to work. He's still young.
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