There is an exhaustion in caring for a person in any care facility..hospital or elder care .It runs parrarel with the feelings of love and care.
We remember all the person did for us and become vigilant.There is no "taking for granted" the everyday we used to share.
Its tiring being on our toes watching to see if there care is good..
We can be lulled into the good days..acceptance..then another issue comes up and back into action.

When you say Dotsie that you could write a book that is how I feel also. I see many others starting out in their own journey to that stage of life...some get sad..some get angry.
I have come to believe that we gain from being the caregiver by doing all we can keeping in focus the whole person..the man/woman our loved one was and still is .
Living in the moment.doing all the small things..