I too could write a book on eldercare. EW, I believe that we reach the acceptance phase once we move past the fear and emotions that helped us to block the reality of the situation.

Dare I say that emotional relief comes with it? Carrying around the burden of "what if" is so draining on our minds and hearts. Once we realize that it isn't important how, or even when, only then can we can fully move past that burden and know that it's only important we enjoy each moment with them, regardless.

It is the step we all have to take. It allows us to continue giving the best care possible, within our own limitations, to our loved one. Once you accept that "it is what it is," the care itself becomes more "normal" if that's a good description of it? You have accepted the disease, now whatever you can do, you do so without even thinking twice about the outcome.

I've said it before and I'll repeat myself...giving daddy and mother care was the greatest of honors! The greatest! Mom is still alive, thank you Lord, but daddy isn't. Still, I look back and think on it all. What a joy! If I had lived on in the daily fear of him dying, I would have missed an incredible journey.