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#189847 - 09/13/09 03:02 PM
Re: How do you "counsel" friends?
[Re: jawjaw]
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I found your first post just as wise as the second one, JJ.
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#189936 - 09/15/09 11:31 AM
Re: How do you "counsel" friends?
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I once found myself in a situation where I was not sure how to deal with. Talking it over with a trusted friend, and listening to my own words helped me sort it out, and realize God's will in that situation. It was amazing how in a short period I was able to realize and decide about it.
I have friends who come to me searching for answers, support, and or just to listen and pray with and for them. If I'm asked to give any counsel at all, I'll pray for God to give me the right answer. And I use the Word of God. It's the most trusted Guide.
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#192762 - 10/28/09 12:51 PM
Re: How do you "counsel" friends?
[Re: jawjaw]
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JawJaw, You are so very right. People on the whole really don't want advice; they want a friendly ear. They know the answer already as you said, they just need to admit to themselves. I had a friend, who used by voicemail when she knew I wasn't home to vent. Unfortunately, she abused the voicemail so, that it would be full and not available for anyone else to leave me a message. This was an unusual situation, but obviously, she really didn't want any advice.
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#192810 - 10/29/09 03:43 AM
Re: How do you "counsel" friends?
[Re: chatty lady]
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Maybe I'm an exception, but when I vent, I'm thankful for any advice sent my way. Sometimes being close to a problem doesn't give the distance you need to solve it. That's when I seek my friends, especially here at BWS, who come up with some of the best counselling and tips I’ve ever heard.
I tend to give advice too, because I don’t really believe venting alone is a solution. Sometimes we need a new perspective to rethink or redo.
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#193100 - 11/03/09 12:10 AM
Re: How do you "counsel" friends?
[Re: Edelweiss3]
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Maybe I'm an exception, but when I vent, I'm thankful for any advice sent my way. Sometimes being close to a problem doesn't give the distance you need to solve it. That's when I seek my friends, especially here at BWS, who come up with some of the best counselling and tips I’ve ever heard.
I tend to give advice too, because I don’t really believe venting alone is a solution. Sometimes we need a new perspective to rethink or redo.
My partner does give me the real truth about myself, in a calm way when he knows the right times to deliver such messages.  I appreciate it. But the advantage of friendly strangers is sometimes just offering different ways of seeing the same old thing to eventually find a new solution. I don't actively seek advice all the time from my closest friends simply because we truly lack time. So she (close friend) and I have to focus on the latest news about ourselves, most critical stuff.
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