Thanks Ladies!!!

I have backed off. I realized today that I feel uncomfortable with his son and the situation because of the lack of respect. Someone taking something that doesn't belong to them or standing you up without a phone call shows a lack of respect and if BF does nothing about it, that's also a lack of respect on his part. I comunicated this to him today.

Today I told a dear friend that I would never marry him unless his son was out of the house and her response was well, don't tell him or he'll get rid of him temporarily and then he'll come back.

I've been through too much in my life to have any more disfunction in it. Don't worry, I'm strong and independent.

Kate, I'm so far away from thinking "blended families" I'm not ready for a book on it. An adult kid should be out, not treated like a teenager.