Kate, you are between a rock and a hard place which often happens to divorced couples when one parent is softer than the other. I've seen this happen in our town. Children bounce back and forth between Mom and Dad's and it's tough.

If you can focus on the postitives and know in your heart that she's a good kid, then can you rest with her in your home? The only problem, and I tell my kids this too, is that they're all good kids with smart heads on their shoulders, but with a few beers in them, it all goes out the window. It's not them I don't trust, but the alcohol and the rest of the world.

I wish there was a worry switch parents could turn off when going to bed at night while the kids are still out and about.

Sorry I'm not much help.