I understand completely about the 'sales pitch' on this web site...the rules are clear and I agree, but JJ...I don't mean to offend but the comment, "post some drama about their lives"...isn't that part of what this web site is about? You referred to some members who only care about what's going on in their lives and that once they get a pat on the back they go on their merry way. Or they only talk about themselves.
Maybe that's what some people need or all that some people have time for. When I first started here in the forums I had a lot of time and could post like crazy...not so much anymore. Things change and what takes precedence in our lives change and not everyone has time to scroll through all the forums and make comments. And some members only need this site when they need a place to go for advice/a pat/guidance/venting. What should it matter if a member comes in once or a hundred times...once a year or a thousand times a year...I don't think it's fair to put a lable (TRUE COLORS MEMBER) on a member just because she doesn't post to other's comments or doesn't fit into certain people's mold of how often they come in and if they need to comment on other people's forums.
One of the sentences on BWS home page at the very beginning says that this is a place where there is no judgement. When a staff member starts judging those who only want to 'vent' about a drama going on in their lives, I don't think that's a very professional thing to do.
I probably fit into that label at times. I come in and read but don't always have time to comment. I do what I can when I have the time to do it and I'm certain that others do too. That doesn't mean that we don't care about others...it means that we just don't feel like coming in and sharing with or as often like other members do. Sometimes I'm so busy that all I have time to do is share that good or bad moment with everyone...it's saying...hi, I'm still alive, here's what going on..gotta run...love ya. If a person comments...great...if not, I don't worry about it. I don't think any less of anyone if they don't.
I just don't think any of us should judge members for how often they post or if they respond to someone or not or if we hear from them once or if it's only about their life. To do so isn't fair to what this site, I believe, is about.
Maybe I'm wrong...