Thanks Madelaine,
I have similar thinking. Her Dad is away for four months trying to make some money to pay me off, so telling her to move there will have to wait.

As for the other parents they are not easy to talk to as we don't know each other. Some are ok with it and don't seem to care, others are told lies by their kids. The old, "I'm at a friends place when they are really at a party"

She is sweet but you have to dig stuff out of her. She is a very closed book. She will talk briefly but will then say, I don't want to talk about it anymore. She does not like confrontation which is how she sees it. I am just trying to come up with some compromises. She can be very frustrating.

I am trying to see the positives as it is always easier to focus on the problem areas. To my knowledge she does not use drugs, she goes to school, she wants to graduate, is in the choir and is respectful for the most part other than going against my rules. It could be a lot worse. But this has to be dealt with and
when her Dad gets back if it is not resolved, she may have to go back with him.

Kate