Last night my border (17 yrs old) sneaked his girlfriend in. My room is right beside his (which is my former daughters room)
He came in late when I was already in bed. He pays rent and is a good kid but here I am facing this boyfriend/girlfriend situation all over again. First my daughter won't move back unless I allow her to have over nights at her boyfriends, now this kid wants to sneak girls in.

He thought I didn't know but when he came out of his room I asked him if his friend had left. He looked kind of sheepish. Guess she went out the window. I told him that if he had his own entrance, separate apt it would be none of my business as he pays rent. But, he lives in the house with all of us and it's sending a bad message to my 15 year old son. Next he will want to do it.

He knows about my issues with my daughter as we have talked about it. I asked him if his Mom would allow this and he said "well if it was late and she had no place to go" So I said, she would allow the girl to sleep with you in your bed? he said no and then said he was sorry. Really I'm beginning to think I am the only Mom who has any rules.

It was not my intention to make him feel bad and I think he knows this. This is a real catch 22 as he does pay rent. But he is in our living space. Right beside my room too which is not the greatest for me, privacy etc.

I am getting so tired of this. Want to just ship both the kids to their Dad's and get a one bedroom apartment for me.

Frustrated.