Yes I am going to back off. I think this is a real power trip for her. Knowing I want her to move back. It's a control thing.

"You won't let me move home and let me do what I want, so I will make you squirm"

I don't think she is doing this on purpose but she it doing it all the same. She is not happy. Life is getting her down, she just wants to be able to be free to do what she wants. Have money to move out on her own etc. What teenager doesn't feel like this at times. I sure did. I wanted to move out from age 15 but my mother was a very critical controlling person. My daughter has had it easy in that department.

She says she wants to be able to do what she wants, she wants her freedom. But, no responsibility of course. She still wants me to pay for everything.

I have one issue I would like to check in with you ladies on. My daughter moved out with her bed and most of her clothes. She left behind large bags and boxes of junk, clothes, books etc. I am moving. I have asked her a few times to get her stuff but she says she is moving back so why bother. That was a while back. I need to get this stuff out. I am not going to move it for her as it's mostly junk but I can't throw it out.

Do you think it would be ok to drop it off at her Dad's at this point? Would this be childish. Maybe the timing is not good. Just thinking if she can't even tell me if she is moving back or not than I am going to assume she is not. For now anyway.

I have asked her nicely and explained that I need to know. If I move and there is not enough room for her later she will be sorry. She will not give me an answer. It makes a difference in the rent etc. If she did move with us it will be more expensive as I will need a larger place. If she isn't going to move with us then I will get a smaller less expensive place. I don't want to get a large place and have an empty room. She doesn't seem to care at all about this. Just wondering.

I heard she broke up with her boyfriend. All her friends are glad. Maybe she is mad at me because I told her he didn't respect her by allowing her to take the bus home after midnight by herself. I told her he should come to her house and he should take the bus home. Why should she do this, it dangerous for a young girl to be out at night on her own. She didn't like it when I said it but her friends were also telling her to ditch him. She may be upset about that too. Who knows, maybe she even thought about moving in with him and he would take care of her. NOT! You know how girls can have these crazy romantic ideas when they are young.

Anyway, should I drop her stuff off?

Kate