I continue to send my daughter emails and she doesn't respond. She only comes over now to use the computer and eat my food. Her Dad never has any.

When I try to talk to her about anything she answers with yes of no answers. She never looks at me.

Tonight when I came home she was on the computer. She called her Dad to pick her up as she had a project to do. He said no you can walk. I asked her if he was picking her up and she said no, he never does. I would drive her all over the place and her friends. Probably too much. She was getting ready to leave so I asked her if she wanted to go for a coffee and I would drive her to her Dads. Figured that may be a way to connect. She had her IPOD on the entire ride and said nothing.

When we got to the coffee place she told me that her school is going on a trip next year to Cuba and she needs $150 before the end of the week or she can't go. I asked her if she had talked to her Dad about it and she said he won't pay, of course, no surprise there. She said they need to book everything and it's a good deal, only $1,500. Well she seemed to be able to talk to me about that but nothing else, she wants something. I think she is in a very selfish place, I really do. Also her Dad has spoiled her by letting her do whatever she wants.

So, I just changed the subject. I asked her if she is going to move back. I just got served with a notice to move in two months. She said last week she wanted to. Tonight she said she doesn't know. I said well I need to know how many bedrooms I need to be looking for. Can you give me an idea. She said she doesn't know and she will never know. I said ok, well then I will just have to rent what I can afford and if there is not enough room for you than what can I do. She just nodded and said she had to go. She is so cool with me, I just don't get it.

She wants to move out on her own but has no job and no idea what it would be like.

I tried to talk to her in the car. I said it seems like you don't want to talk to me. I told her is was hard to know what's going on with her if she doesn't tell me. It was so frustrating. I just said to her, "I give up" I am trying so hard here and you are not communicating with me at all. I got really upset and started to cry but did not let on, tried to hide it. I am not sure if she noticed or not. She just got out of the car at her Dad's and walked away.

I'm so hurt, I have done nothing but love my daughter. I've always been there for her and we had what appeared to be a great relationship until she moved in with her Dad. She is turning her back on me or so it seems. I can't take the pain anymore. I am not going to ask her again. I am not going to pay for her trip. Really I just don't know what to do. I'm trying not to be childish here but this hurts so bad.

I just have to let her go and figure it out. She can come to me from now on. Really sending her little notes and cards does nothing. Tonight when she was here I gave her a big hug and she acted all aloof.

I know, it's tough being a teenager but this is too much. My only thought is she is trying to get back at me because I told her she can't live with me if she stays out all night and over at her boyfriends house. I told her I am willing to make compromises over some things but until she is older or has a place of her own she cannot do overnights at this guys place.

Maybe she is getting back at me, I just don't know but she is being so mean to me and I don't deserve it at all.

Kate