Well things have changed quit a bit. My daughter is now going to stay at her Dad's.

He lets her stay at her boyfriends house over night. She just turned 17 three months ago. He says she is almost an adult, what can you do, she's going to do it anyway etc. etc. I call it a cop out. He doesn't want her to leave so is doing whatever to keep her there. He has no rules and doesn't want her to be mad at him so he gives in. She says he understands and I don't.

She was here Easter weekend and I had a long talk with her. I told her that when she is at my house that there is no way she can stay overnight at her boyfriends. I told her it is disrespectful for her and me. I had just found out she was doing this. Her Dad and she were keeping it from me. She told me all her friends do it and what's the problem. I tried to explain but she went off crying. I had told her that as long as she continues with this she cannot live here. So she stubbornly said then she will stay at her Dad's. There is no reasoning with her.

Her Dad doesn't even know this guy. I have never met him either. Her friends don't like him and tell me he has a drinking problem. All I know is that he is 19 and works in construction. He lives in a room above a store with some other guys.

I am so worried for her but she tells me she is smart, and knows what she is doing.

It is really hard to stay firm but I have to. I am not going to change my standards for her, just because everyone else is doing it. It's a shame but what can I do?

Kate