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Thanks Dotsie for posting this article, I hope it helps someone. It opened my eyes somewhat on a few things...

Its weird I know but I have NO desire to date. I would rather be out and about with girlfriends just laughing and having a ball. Men are too much trouble!

I think the statement "It's not so much about meeting the right person, as it is about becoming the right person," says mountains about a relationship. I am a better person in my relationship but it came at the cost of a divorce.

chick, I totally agree. In relationships, we too often point the finger at the other person when we should really be pointing it at ourselves. How can we change to make the relationship better?

Chick...100% agree and if there is one thing I've learned through the lessons I've been handed is 'I can't change someone else, I must be the person I want to attract'. And, dadgummit, I sure wish someone else could do the work (grin). It sure would make my life easier if that would happen! Reminds me of a saying my dad used often "wish in one hand..."

Mama, I agree. I've known plenty of women who've wanted to work at a relationship, but the men are stubborn. Can't get very far like that.

Nope, Dotsie, you're right! And it seems to me, although my opinion *could* be a bit biased (grin), that women get to lead the way on the relationship front!

Choose to focus on the good things, starting with the fact that you are ready for or have found love again. Love is meant to be celebrated; not something of which to be afraid."



"Our attitude either gets in the way or creates a way," Glenn concludes.

I love that last quote more for a mantra for life than just about love again after being widowed. A reallie good find chattie and Dotsie

i think i gonna nick that quote poor rumi had his day lol.

Good Morning Ladies,
You've all got good points. We must work on ourselves first, to be our best selves, in order to have a successful relationship; hopefully, we all learned that the first time around in the romance dance. It's been quite an experience finding myself again after losing my husband, then working on that new self, learning new things, discovering a brand new life. But, I have to say that I'm with Chatty. I'm having a blast with friends, starting a new career and fully appreciating my independence and freedom. I loved my husband, he was a sweetheart, but I'm really not interested in looking around for love again. Men are a lot of trouble. I spent 35 years training the last one; don't think I have the time or patience to train another. I'm having too much fun as I am.
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