Dear Wendy,

I know how to help grandmothers who just want the best for their grandkids. Share your pain with the wonderful boomer ladies here. Vent and think out loud. It truly helps you see more clearly, and as DJ stated in her post, you must try to see over a decade.

My situation has changed because I have changed. I have learned to let go. I have learned not to fret over what I can not change. This took a long time and I still have downfalls,… but it was this attitude that helped me the most. You have to look out for yourself and mother your inner child as well. Your granddaughter will always know and feel the love you have for her. And when she is older and more independent she will understand and appreciate what you have been going through for her sake.

I hope and pray the best decision will be made for your grandchild’s sake.