Hope the very best for your mother, gims. Plot your way through and document every step/event.

DJ- Interesting. Last year I knew another woman at work who's Mom also is in a lovely retirement community like your mother's. And she too was marshalling efforts with her siblings to ensure her mother's health care was properly looked after. They also seemed to slide. I did hear how her mom was dehydrated 'cause no one thought to get some liquids for her for several hrs.

Orchid, my parents moved to a very posh retirement community, as distinct from a nursing home. They paid something like $350,000 for a condo, and then pay fees of about 4-5K per month, that includes all maintenance and health care. It has a nursing wing and an Alzheimer's wing if you get sick. There's a dining area with a grand piano and someone playing music while they eat dinner around an indoor fountain. There are frequent cultural trips into the city, and lectures etc., a swimming pool, exercise gym. All in all it's like a resort and being allowed in is much coveted in that area (you have to have interviews and have insiders vouch for you, as in a country club).

And _still_ we have these problems. My brothers believe that this is their way of moving folks along, in order to be able to sell the condo again.
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