EW, the place looks lovely. And when I first saw your mom, I could see that you resemble her. Your facial features from a distance are exactly the same. She looks very peaceful and beautiful.

I'm sure that in time she will make friends with other residents. Does she eat meals with others? That's how my FIL has gotten to know other residents. Do they have daily activities? That's another way we've gotten him to interact.

In a few short months, it has become his home, where he is now comfortable with his surroundings. We are certain of this because we've taken him out to dinner or lunch, and during the meal he's gotten anxious about getting back, wanting to know who's going to take him and how he's going to get in because he doesn't have a key. Remember, he has Alzheimer's so is often fairly with it and at other times is very confused. We realized he's accepted it as his home when we took him out and he wanted to go there instead of his house. Still heartbreaking because we'd love him to have been able to stay in his home forever.

Does your mom keep her door open when she's home? We've noticed that when my FIL does so, people are in and out of his room all the time. It's like a college dorm. But the ones who keep their doors closed have no visitors.

You mention visiting her more now. We do the same. We'd visit him once a week before. Now we see him about four or five times a week. Not sure how long we can keep this up because I also help with my dad (taking him dinner tonight). I always remember peple saying that when you were finished with the bulk of your children's care, you moved on to taking care of your parents. Boy has that been true in our case.

I'm pryaing your husband's heart will soften towards your mother's care.