Thanks Edelweiss and Dotsie, I am taking a course at the moment, going to hot yoga, working lots and keeping busy. Her Dad was terrible to me to and also to my eldest son but that was years ago. His home life is very chaotic because that is the way he is, but I think he has mellowed somewhat over the years.

He is very selfish for sure and has never wanted to pay me a cent, but. I believe he is nice to my daughter at least. If he wasn't she would be home in a flash.

I don't want to put pressure on her so am doing what you suggest, staying in the back ground and enjoying more time with my son.

Yes hopefully the other girl moves on or moves home but with friends you have to be careful and wait it out. I know from experience if your kids don't think you like a certain friend, they will hang out with them even more.

Kate