Orchid, my daughter knows I would prefer she live with me. I send her emails telling her I miss her and she comes over a fair bit. It's a fine line as I don't want to put pressure on her. I want it to be her decision, not have both parents pressuring her. She told me she knows with her Dad it's all about the money. She knows this yet continues to live with him. Why, because she can basically do what she wants, and it is worth it for the ex to let her friend stay with her so he doesn't have to pay me child support.

Dotsie, I think my daughter maintains some contact with her other friends but not alot. This friend I believe has latched on to her and it's not good. The other night I got them a movie which is really good for girls, self-esteem (Mona Lisa's Smile)
There are great messages in this movie. Not even 10 minutes in the friend says, this is so boring, let's watch one of my movies. So she changes it to some horrible kind of movie with no substance. I know if I watched it with my daughter she would have enjoyed it, but she sided with her friend.

I believe she has latched onto my daughter partly because they like each other, but more because she can control my daughter as her life is out of control. Also she can have no rules either by living at my ex's house. He uses them for free babysitters and lets them come and go as they please.

Kate