Thanks Chatty, It's not over yet but he will find out it won't be as easy as he thought.
My daughter is at a very self indulgent stage in her life. It's all about friends. She can get away with more at her Dad's. I also expect more from her so I think she likes to be where nothing is expected of her and she can do what she wants. She may move back but I don't think it will be too soon.

She is living with her Dad, his girlfriend and two young very out of control step siblings. Her Dad is so busy with them that he has no time to see what she is up too. This has to be the case as she told me he is really annoying, they have no heat (ran out of oil) there is not much food and the only bathroom in the house is broken. So there must be a reason she is staying and I believe it is because she can basically do what she wants.

I'm concerned for her but I have to let her learn some lessons.
It has actually been really good for my youngest son and I. I have spent more time with him and he is much happier with his sister not living with us. He likes the one on one attention he gets and likes feeling like the man of the house. He is very loyal to me. I wanted him to try it at his Dad's house for his sake but he said he doesn't want to and wants to stay with me. We have actually been having some really nice evenings together.

So, good things sometimes come out of things that you think are terrible. I miss my daughter but it's ok that she is with her Dad for the time being. I just hope she doesn't make any lousy decisions but that will be up to her. She has been raised with a lot of guidance and I just have to trust that she will do the right thing.

Kate