I have to agree 100% with both jabber and Edelweiss's comments above. Just when you think you're in the marriage game alone you find out there are countless other couples playing the same game.

Venting is awesome. And IMO anybody married any length of time
will have arguments; ups and downs; and segments 'n seasons, when they wish they'd stayed single. Ed3, that's a new one,
a man telling a woman how to set the table. That makes me laugh! But WB has rearranged and redecorated a platter of food before
I set it on the table in front of company. Guys are something! Some of our problems, IMO, are gender differences. Don't you think? It's like that song: "When you see a deer, you see Bambi; and I see antlers hung on the wall." WB sees one thing. I see another. WB hears one thing. I hear another. Twenty-five percent of the time, I don't even know what the heck he's talking about.

I think a sense of humor is vitally important in a marriage, but obviously, it isn't the only thing that will save it. Otherwise, I wouldn't be divorced for almost 17 years. Come to think of it, he WAS the joke....bwwwahahahah....ahem.

To me, the bottom line is that you have to recognize these creatures call men wear a different set of eyes, ears, and mindsets than what women wear. As someone has already pointed out, they think differently, hear and process things differently, and they react TOTALLY different than we would to most "situations."

But one thing that kept me in the marriage was looking at him and saying to myself, "If you died tomorrow, would this fight we're having matter?" Usually, the answer was clear and loud---NO! But after some other "THINGS," the answer I gave myself was "he better sleep with one eye open."

Whattttt?

You're a riot!

Look out! Jawjaw's has the iron frying pan! Don't go to sleep
there, dude! Well, I got divorced in '79; but it wasn't a choice of mine. This little blonde showed up at the door, and I couldn't pick myself off the floor! LOL...! This 'tis suppose to
be funny! It's a yoke! Kind of...

Okay! Here's some stuff to keep marriage alive at midlife.
For intimate sharing, buy some strawberry, or flavor of choice,
Sweet Sensations, warming massage oil; and in pursuit of passion, super motion lotion! Those will add spice to life!!!!

Alrighty, I bought some, rubbed it all over me, waiting >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> still waiting >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>okay, two hours and still waiting, nothing happening!!! So its not like rubbing a magic lamp I guess, huh???

A hot breath, warms that stuff! LOL...heehaw...

Love what jj said, creatures called men wear a different set of eyes, ears and mindsets than women. True. True. True.

CREATURES hummm, now that makes perfect sense.