I thought it might be fun to share some tips on keeping our marriages alive at midlife. Anyonw care to share what they're doing that's helpful and fun?

More spontaneity with our sex life. When both kids were around all the time it was difficult to find a place and time. Now that one's gone and the other is out of the house a lot, we're taking advantage of it!

When we both have a day off there's always a lot of work around the yard to do. We put on the outside music and take frequent breaks always complimenting the other of the progress made. We have a drink, take time to laugh and sometimes we have an old fashioned make-out session in the garage. I always try to think of what attracted me to him in the first place and that helps even when he bugs me!!!!

We play Cribbage at least once/a day during meals. That keeps conversations going....unless he's mad at me for CREAMING his butt!

Taking drives, even to Lowes, is nice. No computers, phone calls, emails etc. Just US.

Yeah, the spontaneous "rolling in the hay" is always nice. But, we've always had that benefit!

Although, when all four dogs are in the house, it's kinda difficult! They always want to play or be in our laps. We just "shoo" the outside!

Dancing, amen to that. Our daughter leaves for college Sunday and we're empty nesters again. It definitely has an impact on the sex life. I can't stand wondering if the kids can hear. Okay, TMI!

LJ, we also do yard work together. I do the gardening part, he does the lawn. And on those hot summer days, sometimes we end with an ice cold beer on the patio.

Di, tell me more about Cribbage... I have to laugh about your Lowe's dates. Sometimes we run to CVS together and call it a CVS date. THat's especially when all the kids were living here.

Cribbage is a wonderful thinking game! It was developed, I think in the United Kingdom for kings and queens. The dealer gets a "crib" or small pile of four cards, hence the name.

If you love to work with numbers, adding up to "15", "runs, ie: straight", flushes, pairs, etc....you'll love it!

For years, DH would talk about it and I'd never heard of it nor played it. But, he taught me and I ran with it! Do a Google on it!

Now we also found the boards were to small for "boomer" eyes, so DH made our own "senior" board.....out of oak. It's beautiful! Larger wholes for marking the score and we use nails instead of the tiny pegs they have in the cheap sets.

We are both addicted! It may take some time to "get it", but once you do, it's a blast.

Keep the tips coming ladies - I need all I can get. Thanks

Dancing, learning a foreign language and taking up new hobbies. We've found that the more adventuresome we are the more exciting it is. Recently we did a zip-line in Alaska. (His idea, not mine) Definitely exciting. We are beginning a "must do" list and taking turns as to which one we do - its lots of fun.

We do some of the very ordinary things, but we do them together. Walking the dog together almost every night. Walking to the courthouse park and sitting on the bench to read our books (how old fogey is that?). Walking into town for lunch or dinner. Movies, church, visiting the kids, food shopping, etc. Walking up to the Friday night Feet on the Street in Towson (block party with a band). We'll also sit on the patio and read the paper or books at the same time. NOthing too much out of the ordinary as you can tell.

savvy, I love your idea of trying something adventurous together, or taking a class together. I'm wondering what that could be for us? Hmmm.... I must get the creative juices flowing for a combined list. Another good idea. So your list is activities that both of you wnat to do together? Kinda like a couple's bucket list?

Dotsie, I have read all your comments referring to your marriage and husband Ross, they makes me ache for my husbands that passed. I know my first husband and I would have always been close and happy we were so uch in love, and I was that happy with my second husband, we spent all our time together for the time we had with no changes in sight. Besides loving him, I liked him so much and he was my best friend. Like you and Ross. I am happy for the two of you and envious in a nice way though. Having someone wondeful to grow old with is a blessing.