Orchid, it sounds to me that your mother's instinct during that derma visit served you well as a healthy demonstration to trust your instinct. As you did with your partner's step-father. I'm glad your partner had the wherewithal to not take chances! OK, I know I had a lot to say here, so I hope I did not scare anyone away. My intention, as always, is to help heal the wounded, and shed light to those in darkness, and bring information and awareness. L, PL