Kate, for some sick reason, I laughed out loud when you mentioned your daughter ahving a party and inviting 60 people. Your husband is clueless.

I'm so glad you had that moment with your son. THa'ts cool when you feel that connection. Keep looking for those opportunites to affirm him. Teens need it even if they don't realize they do. They absolutely need our love.

I think you could be right about your daughter. Just be there for her when the train crashes. It's at times like that when we want to run the other way, but it's when we really need to be there for them - with boundaries that they must adhere to.

Visiting your son is a much better idea than letting him visit you. Great idea. I'll pray you can follow through.