The crazy thing is we get along really well. We go on coffee dates now, never fight or say an unkind word. I have no idea why she would want to move to her Dad's. She told me it's not because of him, it's because he has the large basement room and she wants to see what it is like to have her own place, sort of. Her Dad is going to put in a stove and fridge.

My daughter is a very sweet girl but, very unmotivated. I actually have three jobs. I am always around though as for the most part I work from home. I have a client that I see two hours when they are at school, and one two days a week from 4:30 to 6:30pm.

My daughter keeps saying she is going to get a job but doesn't. She hands out resumes but doesn't follow through. She has skipped so much school that she has to go to night school or she will fail grade 11. Last year and this year she has become very de-motivated.

Does she feel that I judge her, I don't know. I try to push her gently, but maybe without noticing I do it in a way that she takes a critising. I really don't know. Or maybe she just wants to party as her Dad lets her do what she wants. That way he doesn't have to worry about it. On the weekends I insist she is home by a certain time and she doesn't like it. It's often after midnight. She wants to stay out later and if she is at a friends I stay up late to pick her up which I complain about as I am tired.

We live in a one level house like a condo so when she has friends sleep over they are so noisy that I have to tell her to keep it down. Her room is right beside mine. I started to wear ear plugs which help a bit.

Maybe she just finds me too on her case but really I am not. I have to call her every morning to her out of bed but give up. I don't put her down I just tell her she needs to get to school as time goes by fast and she is so far behind. Try to find out if there is anything wrong etc. Maybe she thinks I expect alot from her and feels pressured I don't know.

I do know that her Dad switches jobs and houses constantly, owes all kinds of people. Still borrows off his Mom at age 50 and has defrauded people. My daughter knows this and not from me. I don't talk about him.

So, I'm stumped but she is moving and there is nothing I can do about it. I am afraid for her though.
Kate